There’s this one question that people ask each other most often. Yet it also happens to be the most overlooked question ever. In significance, that is – “How are you?” (currently replaced by the cooler What’s up/Watsup/Wazzup/Sup/some other weird variant). I might have to answer this question a hundred times in a single day…probably, more than that. But for some reason, everyone, including me, have this reply that we are trained to give: “I’m fine” or some variant of it. We, almost never, take the effort to answer honestly. I don’t understand why. I guess I should be asking myself first. My reply: I think it must be because I’m, in a way, taught to give that certain reply than bothering to honestly tell the person how I am. Or maybe it’s just too difficult and complicated to explain how I am to a person, especially if the person is someone who isn’t very close (read: someone who isn’t interested in knowing how I am) and if I’m supposed to give a short answer. Still, have you thought about what exactly you are questioning when you ask a person how they are? It has so much significance…yet we never bother to give a thought to the depth of the question we are asking. It has become a very casual question, now, and even when we ask it, we don’t really expect any in-depth response, probably just a casual response, matching the tone of the question. So, why don’t we take a genuine effort to know how the other person is? Why not ask the question and mean it, want to know it? I read something about this in a book, and since then, it has always struck me as weird. We ask something so profound but never bother to listen to the answer. How many of us would want to sit and listen to exactly how a person is doing? Very less, I’m sure. Maybe, with the rat race we all are caught up in, it doesn’t really matter anymore. Hell, do we even take the time to ask ourselves how we are?
I’ve started trying to ask others how they are and listen to them; I’m beginning to take an effort to mean it when I ask how they are, to actually listen to what they have to say. Spread the message, all of you. And by the way, how are you? 🙂
If you ask me how I am, well, it’s been a boring day. I woke up feeling kinda weird, moody and dull. So, my day started off bad. I did cheer up later, but the underlying dullness is still there. So, not one of my best days, I suppose. Perfect day for some crazy chocolate-indulgence! 😀 What do you do/have to fix up your bad day?