WATSUPPP?????

There’s this one question that people ask each other most often. Yet it also happens to be the most overlooked question ever. In significance, that is – “How are you?” (currently replaced by the cooler What’s up/Watsup/Wazzup/Sup/some other weird variant). I might have to answer this question a hundred times in a single day…probably, more than that. But for some reason, everyone, including me, have this reply that we are trained to give: “I’m fine” or some variant of it. We, almost never, take the effort to answer honestly. I don’t understand why. I guess I should be asking myself first. My reply: I think it must be because I’m, in a way, taught to give that certain reply than bothering to honestly tell the person how I am. Or maybe it’s just too difficult and complicated to explain how I am to a person, especially if the person is someone who isn’t very close (read: someone who isn’t interested in knowing how I am) and if I’m supposed to give a short answer. Still, have you thought about what exactly you are questioning when you ask a person how they are? It has so much significance…yet we never bother to give a thought to the depth of the question we are asking. It has become a very casual question, now, and even when we ask it, we don’t really expect any in-depth response, probably just a casual response, matching the tone of the question. So, why don’t we take a genuine effort to know how the other person is? Why not ask the question and mean it, want to know it? I read something about this in a book, and since then, it has always struck me as weird. We ask something so profound but never bother to listen to the answer. How many of us would want to sit and listen to exactly how a person is doing? Very less, I’m sure. Maybe, with the rat race we all are caught up in, it doesn’t really matter anymore. Hell, do we even take the time to ask ourselves how we are?

I’ve started trying to ask others how they are and listen to them; I’m beginning to take an effort to mean it when I ask how they are, to actually listen to what they have to say. Spread the message, all of you. And by the way, how are you? 🙂

If you ask me how I am, well, it’s been a boring day. I woke up feeling kinda weird, moody and dull. So, my day started off bad. I did cheer up later, but the underlying dullness is still there. So, not one of my best days, I suppose. Perfect day for some crazy chocolate-indulgence! 😀 What do you do/have to fix up your bad day?

 

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9 thoughts on “WATSUPPP?????

  1. You are so right about the standard answer to the question, ‘How are you?’ When I answer, ‘I’m fine’, I usually am, although if it’s someone who doesn’t know me well, I will use it as a matter of course. Close friends and co-workers will get a more honest answer. If I’m in a great mood, I’ll tell them that, enthusiastically! If I am less than perfect, I’ll give them a shrug and a not so happy face or maybe an, ‘I’ve been better’ comment, if I know there isn’t time to delve into all my problems at that moment. If there is time, I’ll give them a brief account of my ills.

    When I ask the question, I really do care about how you/he/she are/is doing, but sometimes things are too busy to delve into everything. I have the sort of demeanor that seems to be appealing to strangers, too. Perhaps they can tell that I am the sort of person who will listen. I have had strangers start talking to me in Walmart who practically give me their life story! I doubt I’ll ever run into them again, and maybe that’s why they choose me to blurt out their problems to, but it can get kind of strange sometimes!

    I am sorry that your day isn’t as great as it could be – but chocolate usually helps me. too! Hope tomorrow is better. 🙂

    • It’s good to know that you do care to know how the other person really is. Few people have the time and interest to do that. And yes, even I have met people who overload you with so much information about their life. 🙂 It’s amusing in some ways but can get irritating, if they go beyond a certain limit. 🙂

  2. I would love to sit and listen to others problems but the thing, they don’t.. It’s usuallly “wassup?” “fine or nothin much” and over… Tht’s it.. And i fix up my bad day by reading your blog or listening to music!! 😀

  3. my days are nw incomplete widout chckin ur blog or emails rosh, im gettin addicted. n ya its so weird, even if im nt fine i end up sayin im gud hw abt u…..n after a minute im lyk, u knw wht im not feeling well…shit its so funny i jst realised it. n rosh, whnever ur feelin low, play chikni chameli n try the step 😉 try it…take care

    • Chikni chameli??? I was sitting kinda open mouthed when i saw her dance!! I can’t move like that!!! And I knew you would be trying out the steps first thing you saw the video!! Unfortunately, I haven’t succeeded yet! 🙂

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