Sometimes Parents Choose NOT To Talk…

When I opened up this page to type out a new post, I had a completely different topic in mind. I was dying to write about it. But then, there were some random blogs I had stumbled upon and thought I’d read them before writing the post. And while reading one such post, I was moved so much that I wanted to write about it right away!

The post I read – When A Mommy and Daddy Love Each Other Very Much – is by a journalism major, which is why I was drawn to the blog, in the first place (I have a thing for journalism, you see!). And when I read this post, I realized that I could relate to what she was talking about…they were so similar to what I felt regarding the issue. And the issue I’m talking about is sex/sex-education.

I DO NOT understand why sex is a taboo topic even now! Particularly, in a family (with special reference to Indian families)! When a kid enters teen/adolescent years or attains puberty, it is natural to be curious about sex. All of us have gone through the same phase. So, why do parents reproach kids for raising sex-related questions? Why are kids forbidden from talking out loud about it?

Frankly, I think parents and teachers are responsible for educating their children/students on sex. Because how much ever they try to deny or ignore it, sex is a part of our lives, part of our basic instincts. And kids, as part of growing up, can have a lot of wrong concepts about it…not to mention, a hell lot of curiosity! I knew a grown-up girl who actually believed kissing could get her pregnant…and trust me when I say I’ve heard worse! I don’t get it. Who else should be telling them the right concepts…their friends? Well, not that friends can’t do it right! Because it wasn’t from my parents or teachers or any elder that I learnt about it! Even though I’m no parent or authority on the subject, I’m doing what I can so that others don’t end up in the same situation. For instance, since I know my mom won’t be having this talk with my little sister, I do it. And she has complete freedom to ask me anything she wants to know. I might not know it all in entirety but atleast, I’m able to tell her what she needs to know!

It’s high time that parents and teachers tried to impart the necessary knowledge related to sex, particularly the need for safe sex, to teenagers. Because they need it. And it is, after all, your responsibility to guide them on the right path. And, NO, just sending them to school doesn’t ensure they are on the right path. The subjects they study at school aren’t helpful enough to prevent one of them from ending up with an unintentional pregnancy! Instead of letting them get all the wrong ideas and end up in trouble, take it on yourself to  give them the right kind of information. If you find it difficult to talk about, you could try asking someone else to talk to them, preferably someone the child is comfortable with. Or you could even try providing them with some useful books. Do what you can, in your own way. Don’t give yourself any opportunities to regret, later in life. I’m sure your child will thank you for it…maybe not right now, but, someday eventually, for sure! 🙂

Writer’s Block Strikes!!!

I know I have been away for a couple of days. And, honestly, I have no idea why (I know that sounds super-dumb!). I think I’m experiencing a bout of writer’s block. Because, last day, when I tried to write in my diary, I couldn’t do it. Not in a satisfying way, I mean. So, until I snap out of this, do bear with me. 🙂

On Monday, four of my classmates from school and I had gone to my school. It hasn’t changed much in the way it looks. But almost all the teachers we knew have left. Hardly a handful of our old teachers are left in school, right now. And I bet it won’t be long before they leave as well. Anyway, our favourite teacher is still there. We met him, spoke to him for a while, met a couple of other teachers and then walked  around for a while.

All the students we knew had passed out after their schooling and we weren’t familiar with any of the ones still in school. Earlier, school meant meeting all those old faces…teachers who had taught us for years, juniors we had known for so long… But now, school has lost that ‘homey’ feeling. There are hardly a few whom we know. All the students,  right now, are strangers to us. School doesn’t feel the same anymore. It’s weird when you walk into your old school and realize that you don’t know anyone over there, all those whom you knew have left. It feels like you have kinda lost that connection with the place.

Anyway, after the time at school, the 5 of us went out and spent some time together. I wouldn’t really say it was fun but, yes, I did enjoy the time. Moreover, that day, I had been feeling  really low since morning. So, the change and the time with them did me a world of good! 🙂 I came back home, all happy and feeling great! 🙂

I’ve had some (quite) profound realizations and thoughts over the past two days. And I wanted to blog about them. But thanks to my awesome writer’s block, I couldn’t get around to doing it! I promise I’ll do it soon. How soon, I have no idea! 😀

To-Be-Disappeared

My model exams got over today! Even though I haven’t been studying anything, it’s still a relief to know exams are over. The finals will be starting on April 2. And I happened to tell my roommate that I will study (like, actually, STUDY) for the upcoming exams. Since my first year in college, I must have written nearly 6 model exams (for 5-6 subjects each time) and 5 final exams (last one coming up in April). I haven’t prepared properly for a single exam! And I wasn’t tensed at all! Don’t ask me why. Only answer I can come up with is that it probably didn’t matter much to me. 🙂 Seriously, it doesn’t. I write bullshit for all the exams. I’m sure the examiner won’t bother to actually read through the looong answers of all those thousands of students from all over the state. So, I entertain myself with the nonsense I can come up with for my answers. And always end up getting somewhere between a good or an average B grade. 🙂 More than enough for me.

But this time around, I was just thinking about the fact that, after the final exam, I won’t be having proper exams like this for quite a while (since I’ll be working). I remember how I used to work hard during my school years, especially in 12th Std. I had put in my maximum, maybe a tiny bit less. Anyway, I had worked, truly studied for my exams back then. It’s been over 3 years since I did anything even near to that. And I realized that I kinda miss it…not much, just a little. This will be the last exam for which I will be able to study…like, study. So, thought I’d give it a try. 🙂 I might change my mind later, you never know. Although, I doubt that will happen. 😀

By the way… Attention! Attention! I’m going to be away for the next one week. There’s this girls-day-out planned for tomorrow. I’ll be going home the next day; have to meet my sister (after a long 3 months, in spite of the fact that she is just around 4 hours away!!). Then, I’ll be coming back, going to a friend’s place and then, on 28th…I’m going to meet Kiran!!! 🙂 It’s her elder sister’s marriage on 29th. So, I’ll be with Kiran for a couple of days and get back by 30th. That’s the plan for now, atleast. Even as I say it, it all sounds so hectic to me, and I know I will be dead tired by the time I get back. But none of that matters. I’m looking forward to all of it… 🙂

I’m really excited, without harbouring any high expectations, because I just want to make most of the experience I’ll be having. I don’t  want to expect something and then rate the experience on the basis of my hopes. So, let’s see how it goes. I know I’ll have fun and love it… 🙂 Of course, I’ll miss this space a lot… I don’t know how I’ll go through so long without blogging. Anyway, do miss me. Once I get back, I will fill you in on all the details about how the week went…and probably, a lot more! 🙂 So, until I get back, TADAAAAA!!!

Going, Going...Gone!!!